The Importance of Boundaries: A Cross-Cultural Perspective
Good morning, everyone. As we approach the end of Q2, I hope everyone is working hard to achieve their goals before Q3 begins on July 1st. My external sales performance is looking promising, and I may even reach my annual goal by the third quarter. This brings me to today's topic: the importance of personal boundaries.
The Weak Sense of Boundaries in Taiwan
Having traveled extensively, I've noticed a significant difference in the concept of personal space, or "border sense," between Taiwanese people and those in other countries, particularly Japan and Europe. Upon returning to Taiwan, it becomes apparent that this sense is often weak. This lack of a well-defined border can lead to discomfort and misunderstandings.
A Personal Anecdote: Queueing in China
I recall a business trip to Beijing where I visited the Great Wall. Due to the holiday crowds, the bus journey took four and a half hours each way. What struck me most was the lack of personal space in the queue. People were standing extremely close, which triggered my space phobia. In Taiwan, we generally don't stand so close to strangers while queueing. While queue jumping is prevalent in China, I see more of this in Taiwan than I used to.
Driving Styles as a Reflection of Culture
The contrast between driving styles in Taiwan and Japan is also telling. In Japan, drivers tend to use smaller cars, reflecting a personality that values being considerate and avoiding causing trouble to others. Parking is easier too. However, in Taiwan, larger cars are more common. This difference in car size and driving habits highlights cultural differences in assertiveness and consideration for others.
Vacationing in Japan and Europe: A Breath of Fresh Air
I find driving in Japan and Europe much more relaxed. In Japan, drivers are disciplined and follow the rules. In Europe, drivers are fast and energetic, yet maintain a sense of order on the road. The roads in Taiwan, however, are often chaotic.
Entitlement and a Lack of Respect
In Taiwan, a sense of entitlement can be observed, such as elderly individuals demanding seats on public transportation. This contrasts with Japan, where the elderly often prefer not to be offered seats. This sense of entitlement extends to other areas, demonstrating a lack of respect for personal space.
Public Karaoke and the "Explosive Talent" Phenomenon
Another common sight in Taiwan is elderly individuals singing karaoke loudly in public parks. While some may view this as showcasing talent, others find it disruptive. While I appreciate Taiwanese songs, the performance style is sometimes not the best. My wife, who grew up in Japan, is very talented at singing those Taiwanese songs.
Workplace Harassment
The lack of a strong "border sense" can also manifest as workplace harassment. Foreign businesses have clear codes of conduct emphasizing respect for personal boundaries. However, in Taiwan, particularly in some factories, there are situations in which male bosses, and male employees engage in what can be perceived as sexual harassment. Often, they don't realize that their behavior is inappropriate.
Northern European Queueing: A Different World
I admire the concept of queueing in Northern Europe, where people stand meters apart, respecting each other's personal space. This starkly contrasts with the close proximity typically seen in Taiwanese queues. I yearn to experience the unique atmosphere of the Nordic countries, even more different than the countries I'm familiar with.
High-Speed Rail Encounters
Traveling on the high-speed rail in Taiwan can also be revealing. The smells emanating from nearby passengers in the business class cabin are a common issue. Taiwanese people’s sense of smell is really bad. Furthermore, people often talk loudly on their phones, disturbing others. This contrasts with Japan, where hot food is prohibited on trains due to the smell.
The Broader Implications of Boundary Issues
The sense of border, and personal space, is a crucial aspect of a civilized society. It reflects respect for others' space, ideas, and choices. The absence of this respect is obvious.
Respecting Boundaries: A Collective Responsibility
To foster progress, we must prioritize respecting others and defending our own boundaries. Just as preventative action is crucial in health, it is essential in social interactions. Be prepared to address boundary violations assertively but respectfully. This is especially important for women. When confronting boundary violations, articulate your perspective clearly.
The Giant Eagle Culture
In conclusion, cultivating a strong "border sense" is vital for a civilized society. I encourage everyone to start with themselves, respecting both their own boundaries and those of others. Refrain from infringing on others' space and be prepared to assert your boundaries firmly when necessary. I think Taiwan has a Giant Eagle culture where people are encouraged to do more. We need to stop that.
Thank you for listening. Let's start our work. Have a good one.
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