This article summarizes a conversation between Tiago and Joe Hudson about the importance of enjoyment in business, the challenges of parenting, and the critical role of connection, especially with children.
The Significance of Enjoyment in Business
Enjoyment as a Standard of Efficiency
Enjoyment is not just a pleasant feeling; it's a crucial indicator of efficiency. Efficiency is about energy use. Therefore, when you enjoy what you do, you use your energy more effectively. This concept challenges the common misconception that speed equates to efficiency.
The Cycle of Enjoyment
Enjoyment creates a positive feedback loop. Your joy positively influences others, resulting in better work. Better work, in turn, enhances your enjoyment, leading to more effective energy usage. Focusing on how to enjoy tasks, rather than solely what tasks to enjoy, can lead to a burst of productivity.
Good vs. Bad Enjoyment
It's important to distinguish between healthy and unhealthy forms of enjoyment. The key is focusing on how you do things. Are you creating more happiness in the world or taking from it? For example, enjoying writing is a positive enjoyment, but avoiding difficult tasks for short-term ease is not. The goal is to find ways to enjoy the process, not just the results.
Enjoyment as an Indicator of Company Health
A company's overall enjoyment level is an important metric. A team who enjoys their meetings is far more likely to grow and succeed. Conversely, if a team dreads meetings, the company's trajectory may be negatively impacted. Enjoyment acts as an early warning sign for potential problems.
Founder's Enjoyment
Founder's Well-Being
Founders are deeply connected to their company's interests. If a founder is enjoying their work, the entire company benefits and becomes more efficient. Making this clear ensures people are happier and are willing to help you get to your company's goal.
Collaboration
A company isn't necessarily a hierarchy, it is a series of roles. Each person has different responsibilities but are each connected. In the case that the founder has an disagreement with someone in charge of the media on the type of content that should be produced, there should be a discussion to make sure everyone enjoys the content produced.
Avoiding Judgement
It is important not to judge people. Instead, find a way to connect with that person, and come to a consensus. It is vital that everyone can feel comfortable and perform their job with enjoyment.
Discipline, Will, and Children
The Importance of Will
"Will" refers to a child's drive and desires. It's vital for children to understand themselves and their will. This foundation is more important than academic skills early in life. Focus on teaching kids to understand themselves and their desires over academics.
Limitations and Boundaries
Limitations, boundaries, closeness, and consistency are useful. But discipline is not. For example, it is important to tell your kids where they cannot hit their sister. And to enforce that limitation.
Embodying Will
Young children who are in touch with themselves tend to feel in their body. Drawing the whole body is an easy way to know if they are in touch with their body.
Dealing with Emotions
Children will experience hardship from other children, and from the world. However, by teaching them to feel those experiences, name them, and understand their purpose, then you can have very emotionally fluent children.
Connecting with Children: Addressing Misbehavior
Understanding the Root Cause
When a child misbehaves, consider the possibility that they lack connection and are seeking attention. A disruptive child doesn't imply your family is not loving, just that things have gotten out of alignment. See what may be wrong, and how you can add more connection with that child.
Responding with Connection
Instead of punishing the misbehavior, focus on connecting with the child. If the child is behaving badly to be in contact with you, then ask yourself why you are seeing that contact.
The Role of Boundaries and Emotional Release
Draw clear boundaries with kindness and openness. This allows children to feel safe and express their emotions. By getting into contact with you with their feelings they can return to joy.
Avoiding Guilt and Victimization
When addressing conflicts between siblings, avoid assigning blame or creating victim identities. Acknowledge that emotions and conflicts occur naturally. It is more important for all siblings involved to see how to connect to each other than the roles in their conflict.
The Pitfalls of Praise
Avoid praising children constantly, as this can lead them to believe that they must live up to external expectations. Instead, support children as they learn how to feel so that they will know to do good in their lives.
Tell your children that you are feeling
An important concept is that you must feel, and you must communicate that with your children. You should make clear to them that you are upset so that they know there is an alignment. By not communicating, they think you do not wish to feel, which is far worse.
Final Thoughts
The conversation underscores the significance of enjoyment in both professional and personal spheres, particularly parenting. Joe Hudson's insights encourage a shift in perspective, prioritizing connection, self-awareness, and emotional intelligence in fostering healthy relationships and successful endeavors.
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