Hello everyone, I'm Ma Xiang Ying. After living in Malaysia for nearly two years, I've realized how much a worldview can change, especially when experienced in a diverse place like Malaysia. My experience has led me to understand the true meaning of internationalization.
Initial Perceptions of Openness
I was born, educated, worked, and married in Shanghai, a city I considered open and international. I learned foreign languages, traveled abroad, and felt confident in my views on world affairs. However, after moving to Malaysia, I realized my previous openness was limited, a distant observation rather than genuine engagement. True internationalization requires active participation and understanding.
The Decision to Move and Initial Adaptation
The decision to move to Malaysia stemmed from the needs of my children's education, the desire for a different pace of life, and the allure of a new environment. I initially believed I would adapt quickly, given the large Chinese population and relatively familiar lifestyle. While I adapted on the surface, I soon discovered a deeper complexity beneath the surface.
Experiencing Multiculturalism in Malaysia
Diversity as a Daily Reality
Malaysia is a truly multi-ethnic country, where diversity isn't just a slogan but a tangible reality. This diversity permeates every aspect of life, from language and food to holidays and spiritual beliefs.
Encounters and Interactions
Living in Malaysia exposed me to various cultures and perspectives firsthand. I celebrated religious holidays with friends from different backgrounds and engaged in conversations on political issues with people holding diverse views. One particular conversation with a stall owner highlighted his concerns about Western cultural influences on children, particularly regarding gender and family values.
Shifting Perspectives and Understanding
Initially, I was taken aback by his perspective. However, I realized the importance of understanding his viewpoint within the context of his cultural background and concerns for preserving traditional values. He was a parent seeking to protect cultural integrity.
The Art of Listening and Understanding
From Debate to Listening
In China, I often engaged in heated debates, particularly on political issues, believing that expression and debate were forms of participation. Now, in Malaysia, I focus more on listening and understanding different perspectives.
Valuing Diverse Viewpoints
I recall a conversation with a Malaysian couple where I resisted the urge to refute their opinions and instead inquired about their views. They spoke about the identity crisis faced by Malaysian Chinese, their connection to both Chinese and local cultures, and the challenges of preserving their language and heritage.
Accepting Differences
I realized that not everyone needs to be persuaded, and sometimes, simply being heard is enough. Listening is a skill I hadn't fully developed within my own cultural circle. There are always experiences, history, and emotions behind political stances.
The True Meaning of Internationalization
Beyond Westernization
Many associate internationalization with Europe, the United States, English, freedom, and democracy. I used to as well. But in Malaysia, I've learned that internationalization is not synonymous with Westernization. It represents a genuine tolerance for diversity and acceptance of differing opinions.
Embracing Contradictions
A doctor friend, deeply traditional and conservative, once told me, "I support diversity, but I don't necessarily agree with all ways of life." This statement shattered my black-and-white thinking and revealed the complexities of human nature.
Lessons Learned and Growth
Observing Change in My Child
I witness my own transformation reflected in my child, who is growing up immersed in Malay language and English thought. He sees the world from a different perspective because he occupies a different space.
Teaching Listening and Thinking
I've learned that we cannot provide children with all the answers, but we can teach them to listen and think critically. This realization is my greatest takeaway from my time in Malaysia.
Embracing Understanding over Debate
I am no longer driven by the need to win arguments but instead, seek understanding. I'm willing to ask "why" and acknowledge my own limitations. I believe this is a key aspect of internationalization – using one's position to connect with previously misunderstood parts of the world.
A Journey of Understanding
My internationalization in Malaysia is not about consuming diverse cuisines; it's about genuinely understanding the country and its people. Moving from China to Malaysia has been both a geographical and psychological journey. I've transitioned from believing I was at the center of the world to learning to see things from others' perspectives. This transformation, while challenging, has been invaluable.
Listening as Respect
Internationalization does not require abandoning one's own position but understanding why others differ. Even when disagreements persist, in values or political opinions, I am committed to listening, as it embodies respect and empowers understanding. Leaving China has allowed me to truly enter the world. Thank you.